Obraciam sa na v\u00e1s s prosbou o radu, ako si m\u00e1me s man\u017eelom <\/span>po\u010d\u00edna\u0165, aby sme si nepokazili dobr\u00e9 vz\u0165ahy s de\u0165mi. Obaja m\u00e1me 60 rokov, m\u00e1me pomerne n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9 zamestnanie, ani zdravie nie je najlep\u0161ie, ja m\u00e1m cukrovku, man\u017eel sa lie\u010di na vysok\u00fd krvn\u00fd tlak. Obe deti u\u017e maj\u00fa svoju rodinu, syn m\u00e1 dve deti vo veku 4 a 2 roky, dc\u00e9ra m\u00e1 jedno <\/span>trojro\u010dn\u00e9 die\u0165a. V\u017edy sme sa sna\u017eili maxim\u00e1lne pom\u00e1ha\u0165 aj synovi, aj dc\u00e9re, neuprednost\u0148ovali sme ani jedn\u00e9ho z nich. Aj tak na seba \u017eiarlili a teraz sa to e\u0161te zhor\u0161ilo. Odkedy sa narodili vn\u00fa\u010dat\u00e1, nem\u00e1me takmer \u017eiadny vo\u013en\u00fd \u010das. Varujeme deti cez v\u00edkend, vtedy sa sna\u017e\u00edm navari\u0165 pre v\u0161etk\u00fdch nede\u013en\u00fd obed, aj im zabali\u0165 jedlo na druh\u00fd de\u0148. Pom\u00e1hame aj cez t\u00fd\u017ede\u0148, \u010dasto ve\u010der pad\u00e1me od \u00fanavy. Aj tak s\u00fa v\u0161etci nespokojn\u00ed, \u017ee m\u00e1lo pom\u00e1hame, alebo \u017ee tej druhej mladej rodine pom\u00e1hame viac… Niekedy s\u00fa to a\u017e neslu\u0161n\u00e9 slov\u00e1 a sc\u00e9ny… Ako sa tomu d\u00e1 pred\u00eds\u0165? (Jarmila)<\/p>\n Mil\u00e1 Jarmila, aj tu plat\u00ed z\u00e1sada – v\u0161etko s mierou. Najlep\u0161ia je zlat\u00e1 stredn\u00e1 cesta. Je dos\u0165 mo\u017en\u00e9, \u017ee ste boli pr\u00edli\u0161 starostliv\u00ed rodi\u010dia v obdob\u00ed, ke\u010f va\u0161e deti vyrastali a tak si zvykli by\u0165 nadmerne po\u017eadova\u010dn\u00e9. Zd\u00e1 sa, \u017ee \u010d\u00edm viac pom\u00e1hate, t\u00fdm je to hor\u0161ie \u2013 obaja s man\u017eelom ste pre\u0165a\u017een\u00ed a sklaman\u00ed zo spr\u00e1vania det\u00ed, deti v\u00e1m vy\u010d\u00edtaj\u00fa a tie\u017e s\u00fa nespokojn\u00e9 a \u017eiarlia na seba. Ako z toho von, \u010do m\u00f4\u017eete vy ovplyvni\u0165? Mo\u017eno v\u00e1s prekvap\u00ed moja odpove\u010f \u2013 venujte viac \u010dasu sebe, svojim kon\u00ed\u010dkom, priate\u013eom, jeden druh\u00e9mu, pl\u00e1nujte si vo\u013en\u00fd \u010das, uberte z pomoci de\u0165om. Je d\u00f4le\u017eit\u00e9, aby ste si dohodli ur\u010dit\u00e9 pravidl\u00e1 a vych\u00e1dzajte z toho, \u010do vyhovuje v\u00e1m. Dajte de\u0165om n\u00e1vrh, ako im chcete pom\u00e1ha\u0165. Je dobr\u00e9, aby to bol otvoren\u00fd, kon\u0161trukt\u00edvny rozhovor so v\u0161etk\u00fdmi z\u00fa\u010dastnen\u00fdmi naraz. Mo\u017eno to nebude jednoduch\u00e9 zariadi\u0165, aby ste sa stretli v\u0161etci dospel\u00ed bez mal\u00fdch deti, ale sk\u00faste to navrhn\u00fa\u0165. V rozhovore sa zamerajte na n\u00e1vrh dohody, nevysvet\u013eujte pr\u00edli\u0161 svoje d\u00f4vody, vyznieva to ako pr\u00fad s\u0165a\u017enost\u00ed a vtedy sa ka\u017ed\u00fd zvykne br\u00e1ni\u0165. M\u00e1te pln\u00e9 pr\u00e1vo od det\u00ed po\u017eadova\u0165 slu\u0161n\u00e9 spr\u00e1vanie a \u00factu, aj za cenu, \u017ee sa niektor\u00e9 z det\u00ed alebo ich partneri urazia a na \u010das odml\u010dia. V\u0161etci m\u00e1me len jeden objem energie a vekom sa tento objem zmen\u0161uje. L\u00e1skav\u00fdmi a trpezliv\u00fdmi star\u00fdmi rodi\u010dmi budete len vtedy, ak budete v dobrom zdravotnom stave, odd\u00fdchnut\u00ed a ke\u010f v\u00e1s nebude valcova\u0165 \u00fanava. Z\u00e1kladom harm\u00f3nie v \u017eivote \u010dloveka aj vo vz\u0165ahoch je rovnov\u00e1ha. U v\u00e1s ch\u00fdba a preto sa hromadia probl\u00e9my. \u017del\u00e1m v\u00e1m ve\u013ea odvahy na otvoren\u00fd rozhovor. Premyslite si s man\u017eelom, \u010do chcete de\u0165om poveda\u0165, pr\u00edpadne si to najprv aj nap\u00ed\u0161te. Dbajte na pozit\u00edvnu formul\u00e1ciu, vyvarujte sa v\u00fd\u010ditiek a s man\u017eelom sa navz\u00e1jom podporujte.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Rad\u00ed: PhDr Eva Plencnerov\u00e1, klinick\u00e1 psychologi\u010dka a psychoterapeutka Obraciam sa na v\u00e1s s prosbou o radu, ako si m\u00e1me s man\u017eelom po\u010d\u00edna\u0165, aby sme si nepokazili dobr\u00e9 vz\u0165ahy s de\u0165mi. Obaja m\u00e1me 60 rokov, m\u00e1me pomerne n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00e9 zamestnanie, ani zdravie nie je najlep\u0161ie, ja m\u00e1m cukrovku, man\u017eel sa lie\u010di na vysok\u00fd krvn\u00fd tlak. 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